Ironically, while the core mission of Hold Me Back is to enhance communication between generations, there’s yet to be an episode dedicated to the “science” of communication. Until now. Aidan & Ash welcome to the show one of the country’s leading minds on the topic of why smart people routinely misunderstand each other, Dr. Nicholas Epley. All in this week’s episode of Hold Me Back. Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and your other favorite podcast platforms.
The Science of Communication
Ironically, while the core mission of HMB is to enhance communication between generations, there’s yet to be an episode dedicated to the “science” of communication. Until now. Aidan & Ash welcome to the show one of the country’s leading minds on the topic of why smart people routinely misunderstand each other. Dr. Nicholas Epley is the author of Mindwise: How We Understand What Others Think, Believe, Feel, and Want, and the Director of the Roman Family Center for Decision Research at the University of Chicago Booth School of Business, where he studies and teaches social cognition. There’s nothing intuitive about this episode – which will have you rethinking everything. This episode covers everything from communication to college. Here’s a small sample of what you will hear in this episode:
- What’s the story of Nicholas getting pulled over when he was younger?
- Why are people bad listeners?
- What is the Fast Friends procedure?
- How has this communication research affected Nicholas as a father?
- What’s the most surprising thing he has discovered?
Who was more convincing: Aidan or Ash? Vote at the bottom of this post.
Enjoy the show! Check out the show notes below for much more detail.
Show Notes
- Intro to The Science of Communication
- [0:35] Welcome to Hold Me Back
- [0:42] Meet Aidan (Gen Z) & Ash (Gen X)
- [0:58] Why do people listen to this podcast?
- [1:42] Dr. Nicholas Epley
- [2:30] Roman Family Center for Decision Research at the University of Chicago Booth School of Business
- [3:15] Mindwise: How We Understand What Others Think, Believe, Feel, and Want
- Interview with Dr. Nicholas Epley
- [5:48] What’s the story of Nicholas getting pulled over when he was younger?
- [9:20] How did that moment change his life forever?
- [10:02] Why did he start researching communication?
- [13:38] Supercommunicators: How to Unlock the Secret Language of Connection by Charles Duhigg
- [13:52] Why are people bad listeners?
- [19:45] Are we better listeners with our partners or friends?
- [21:22] Why is empathy more powerful than you think?
- [23:52] What is the Fast Friends procedure?
- [29:15] Can you start with the deeper questions?
- [33:42] What experiments did Nicholas run on trains & buses?
- [42:08] How do you ask the right questions?
- [49:07] This episode of Hold Me Back is brought to you by WellNow. Walk in or book online at WellNow.com
- [50:18] Why is vulnerability so important?
- [54:40] What is egocentrism?
- [55:45] How do biases play into communication?
- [59:42] How has social media impacted communication?
- [1:02:45] What’s the science behind social media?
- [1:04:15] How does communication differ based on age?
- [1:06:00] How has this communication research affected Nicholas as a father?
- [1:12:44] What’s the most surprising thing he has discovered?
- [1:15:45] What’s the most important lesson he’s taught to his kids?
- [1:16:28] Mindwise: How We Understand What Others Think, Believe, Feel, and Want
- Outro
- [1:18:19] Thank you for listening! Follow Hold Me Back on HoldMeBack.com and on Instagram & Facebook
- [1:18:25] Leave us a 5-star written review on Apple Podcasts
- [1:18:38] Who was more convincing: Aidan or Ash? Vote below
